Apr 23
Vulnerability
Vulnerability is an important concept. Often though, it gets interpreted as being weak or being exposed to some form of danger.
For example: people who were in a “life-or-death” situations could define vulnerability as dangerous (combat). Business people talk about it as “a possible costly mistake”. And so on…
These beliefs and perceptions come from unresolved past experiences. People who don’t work through these stories will have a hard time trusting, will have a hard time with close friendships and relationships, and later will feel that nobody understands them, which makes them very angry inside even if they try to cover it up and hide their true feelings. These unresolved issues are the real reasons why people burn out.
You can see why it is so important to heal these issues because they present a series of disconnects from our true, core.
Here is the flipside of the story. A healed person, who comes from love, abundance and personal power, is vulnerable. He or she has nothing to prove, has nothing to flaunt has nothing to take away from others. This person is simply there to offer help, contribution and positive change without being needy, suspicious or desperate.
A healed person shows up authentically in his or her pure energy, offering a unique sense of balance and a form of silent power that is highly unfamiliar to most people.
He/she is vulnerable, because he/she understands that he/she does not know it all, he/she does not have it all, and he/she is OK with it. It’s not a power struggle anymore; it is a pure exhibition of the mastery of power and higher understanding.
A healed person can read others like a book, even if others are desperately trying to hide their inner conflicts and insecurities. This person uses his/her intuition to guide him/her and already knows what others are going to say and do. But his/her journey at this evolutionary level is not about hurting or criticizing others.
This journey is about benevolence, compassion and completing his/her life’s mission!
Every one of us has an inherent need to expose our vulnerable side from time to time. We would like to open up, ask for advice, and share our feelings. However, limiting beliefs, including the ones that “we are weak” or “we are powerless / helpless,” come with fear and shame.
These emotions reduce our willingness to be vulnerable. In this protection mode, we cannot lower our guard; rest comfortably, interact with others, accept help and heal.
Deep down, we all know that vulnerability is a necessity for friendships, long-term relationships, therapy, and healing. However, when our mind blocks compassion from us because it considers vulnerability as weak, unacceptable or even dangerous, we begin to feel alone, unwanted, and unloved.
There will always be situations and circumstances where we feel vulnerable or out of place. Whether we are traveling to a new place, meeting new people, or going on a date, there will be times in our lives where vulnerability is necessary. Interestingly, some of these moments can be the most memorable ones.
I have noticed that many heavily traumatized people have a strange belief that “it is a sign of weakness to accept help.” So they avoid getting help, to avoid the negative emotion of shame, even though deep at the subconscious level, they already feel powerless, helpless and weak.
What is NOT in us cannot bother us!
As long as people turn away from figuring out the logic of the Subconscious Mind, they will be held hostage by it!
When we heal our issues with Love at the subconscious level, remove our fear of judgment and rejection, take care of our mommy and daddy issues, life gives us a brand-new experience. We start to live without unnecessary triggers and emotional misinterpretations.
We will interact with the world genuinely and authentically, without hiding and defending certain aspects of ourselves. This authenticity and the lack of “need” for defensive behaviors; our “vulnerability” will exhibit our true power and strength.
This becomes evident when we understand at our core that each and every one of us is motivated and driven by only one major concept: “LOVE.”
From the book: Mastering Your Mind
